What do INFJs struggle with most?

In my experience as an MBTI® practitioner, one of the most common struggles I hear from INFJs is the struggle of being misunderstood. INFJs feel misunderstood in their external environment and even by themselves.


What problems do INFJs have?

INFJs are fixated on patterns, trends, and timing. Before they act on something, they want to know the long-term implications of that decision. It's important for them to analyze many different perspectives before they take action. While this CAN be a good thing, it can also be a roadblock to productivity.

What do INFJs worry about?

Crowds, noise, frequent interruptions - INFJs need their personal space and may experience great anxiety if they have too much contact with people in one day. Faced with such provocations, there's a risk that you will spread yourself so thin responding to other people's problems that you neglect your own needs.


What is an INFJ biggest weakness?

Advocate (INFJ) Weaknesses. Sensitive to Criticism – Advocates aren't averse to feedback – that is, unless they believe that someone is challenging their most cherished principles or values. When it comes to the issues that are near and dear to them, people with this personality type can become defensive or dismissive.

Why is life hard for INFJ?

INFJs are so concerned about the feelings of others that we often hold ourselves back. We can be reluctant to open up or make the first move in a relationship because we're not sure if the other person really wants to listen to us or really cares about the issues and ideas that are so precious to us.


What Do INFJs Fear The Most? (8 INFJ Fears)



What makes INFJ tired?

Stressed or unhappy INFJs are often tired of trying to make people feel good. They stop caring what people think and about “blending in” socially. In fact, they may feel a sense of relief in laying out criticisms, nitpicking other people's statements, or even starting a debate over the logic of something.

What makes an INFJ uncomfortable?

Reading too much into a situation

INFJs can appear very awkward when their intuition kicks in and they start reading into a situation. For instance, if someone is being sweeter to the boss than usual, you may infer that they are doing it to get ahead at work.

What are the toxic traits of an INFJ?

10 Signs of an Unhealthy INFJ
  • #1 – They try to keep other people happy, but they resent them as a result. ...
  • #2 – They leave arguments instead of hearing other people's perspectives. ...
  • #3 – They can be over-sensitive and self-absorbed. ...
  • #4 – They are hyper-sensitive to the body language and comments of others.


Who should an INFJ marry?

ENFJ. Loyal and dedicated, ENFJs share many of the same values as INFJs. Both of these types thrive when helping others and show a relentless dedication to their principals. Still, while this shared ethic may be a good foundation for a successful relationship, there's one little letter that can change things around.

What are INFJs good at?

About INFJ – 'The Counselor'

INFJs have great insight into people and situations. They are creative with deep feelings and strong convictions that guide their lives. Strongly humanitarian in outlook, INFJs tend to be idealists, and they are generally doers as well as dreamers.

What drains an INFJ?

INFJs tend to be especially drained by conflict with others. They're likely to avoid tension as much as they can, which may lead them to withhold information due to a fear of causing conflict.


What does a stressed INFJ look like?

Grip stress makes the INFJ suddenly start behaving like an unhealthy, imbalanced ESTP. We lose our long-range focus, our typical empathetic nature and become focused on indulgence and sensory pleasure. We may become impulsive and reckless, seeking out thrills or enjoyment even if it's dangerous.

How do INFJ deal with heartbreak?

Looking to whatever it is that gives us hope can be incredibly helpful for INFJs who feel overwhelmed by heartache. Listen to relaxing music, read a good book, meditate on something that gives you a sense of hope.

Do INFJ avoid phone calls?

Phone calls

This can be an issue for a lot of introverts, but it seems to be a particular difficulty for INFJs. Personally, I don't mind being on the phone to catch up with a friend or someone I know. In that situation, I can often be on the phone for hours without thinking twice.


What happens when INFJ get angry?

Usually, they will get more withdrawn and stuck in their head when they're angry. They might try to shut off noise, lights, or find a room they can hide away in to deal with their thoughts and charged emotions. Some INFJs shut down and stop talking and reacting, trying to sort out their thoughts inside.

What is the love language of INFJ?

According to Priebe's survey, 35.67% of INFJs list “Quality Time” as their preferred love language. This is followed by Words of Affirmation (25.54%), Physical Touch (21.83%), Acts of Service (14.04%), and Gifts (2.92%).

Who is most attracted to INFJs?

INTP (“The Logician”)

In the world of personality theory, the INTP and INFJ pairing has been nicknamed “The Golden Pair” because these two types can be highly compatible.


Is dating hard for INFJs?

They crave deep mental and emotional connections with others; proximity or just a few shared interests won't cut it. This is especially true when it comes to love and dating. As a result, INFJs can really struggle to find Mr. or Mrs. Right.

When an INFJ goes quiet?

What happens when an INFJ gets mad? INFJs often lock out their emotions when they're upset. These often try to process their thoughts before reacting, which is why they might keep quiet or shut people out when aggrieved. The last thing they'd want to do is to react without consideration.

What does a hurt INFJ look like?

INFJs are sensitive souls who are easily overwhelmed, but they have their limits. If they feel stressed by their environment, or the people in it, they'll tend to cry or become very quiet and want to be alone. Some INFJs will be cold, sarcastic and very blunt or speak to someone only on a very superficial level.


What was Jesus's personality type?

If the conclusions I've drawn are correct, Jesus had preferences for INFJ or perhaps INTJ, INFP or INTP. This might explain why he stood out so much from the crowd, aside from the fact that, for those who believe in him, he was the son of God.

Who is INFJ not compatible with?

Medium High Compatibility: INTJ, ENTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ. Medium Low Compatibility: INTP, ENTP, ESFP, ISFP. Low Compatibility: ISTJ, ESTJ, ENFP, INFP.

What do INFJs do when stressed?

For the INFJ, stress can start out by making us more true-to-type. A stressed INFJ might disappear from the world for a while and ignore texts, phone calls, and responsibilities. After a while, they might call up a good friend and vent about their struggles and fears.


What not to say to an INFJ?

7 things you should never say to an INFJ
  • “Calm down!” As we've just found out, INFJs are highly sensitive. ...
  • “You're just not trying hard enough.” ...
  • “I'm fine.” — when you know you aren't. ...
  • “No one will ever understand you.” ...
  • “You're doing too much.” ...
  • “You make it difficult to love you.” ...
  • “You're so boring.


What's so special about INFJ?

INFJs have deeply held beliefs and the ability to act decisively to get what they want. Helper: While they are introverted by nature, people with an INFJ personality type can form strong, meaningful connections with other people. They enjoy helping others, but they also need time and space to recharge.