What hurts an INFJ?

INFJs are easily rattled, anxious and stressed when they have too much to do in a short space of time, when they aren't given time to reflect on problems or when someone is watching them.

What upsets an INFJ?

Because INFJs are so naturally aware of harmony levels and emotional needs, they are irritated by people who seem tactless, rude, mean-spirited, troll-ish, or unnecessarily disruptive. In situations where someone is corrupting the emotional atmosphere for their own selfish gains, an INFJ can become severely angered.

What scares INFJ the most?

What makes INFJ unhappy?

Stressed or unhappy INFJs are often tired of trying to make people feel good. They stop caring what people think and about “blending in” socially. In fact, they may feel a sense of relief in laying out criticisms, nitpicking other people's statements, or even starting a debate over the logic of something.

How do INFJ deal with hurt?

It's important for INFJs to understand that they can have compassion toward themselves while also acknowledging their own struggles. INFJs should make a conscious effort to view and treat themselves in the same way they view and treat their loved ones when they experience pain — with compassion and understanding.

Why Is It So Painful to Be an INFJ?

When an INFJ is heartbroken?

A heartbroken INFJ might think they should never have trusted this person in the first place and eat themselves up with guilt. They might get angry and defensive, scared of ever letting another person in. It's okay to feel those things, but it's not healthy to stay there long-term.

When an INFJ goes silent?

What happens when an INFJ gets mad? INFJs often lock out their emotions when they're upset. These often try to process their thoughts before reacting, which is why they might keep quiet or shut people out when aggrieved. The last thing they'd want to do is to react without consideration.

What drains an INFJ?

INFJs tend to be especially drained by conflict with others. They're likely to avoid tension as much as they can, which may lead them to withhold information due to a fear of causing conflict.

How do INFJ deal with heartbreak?

Looking to whatever it is that gives us hope can be incredibly helpful for INFJs who feel overwhelmed by heartache. Listen to relaxing music, read a good book, meditate on something that gives you a sense of hope.

What stresses out an INFJ?

Crowds, noise, frequent interruptions - INFJs need their personal space and may experience great anxiety if they have too much contact with people in one day. Faced with such provocations, there's a risk that you will spread yourself so thin responding to other people's problems that you neglect your own needs.

What are INFJs insecure about?

INFJs feel insecure when they receive criticism or are faced with conflict or confrontation. They want to live in a harmonious atmosphere as much as possible, and they tend to take criticism very personally as children. SIDE-NOTE: INJs can enjoy sports, as any type can.

What is an INFJ biggest weakness?

Advocate (INFJ) Weaknesses. Sensitive to Criticism – Advocates aren't averse to feedback – that is, unless they believe that someone is challenging their most cherished principles or values. When it comes to the issues that are near and dear to them, people with this personality type can become defensive or dismissive.

What do INFJs crave the most?

INFJs are looking for not just physical intimacy, but emotional intimacy. They don't want an “instagram relationship” where their partner only tells them what they want to hear or what looks good on paper. They want vulnerability, honesty, and deep understanding.

What does INFJ fear?

INFJs Fear Being Misunderstood

And let me tell you, we spend quite a lot of our lives feeling this way. I have often felt that I live on my own planet. I have tried to describe this to a few people, but haven't had much success. Because I crave a deep connection with others, I adjust myself to each person's world.

What not to do to an INFJ?

When an INFJ shuts down?

INFJs are empathetic, patient listeners and loyal friends, but they may shut down when others push them too far. The Counselor personality has a cold, closed side, and it can be extremely hard to win them back as a friend when that relationship becomes strained.

Do INFJ struggles find love?

Summing it up. INFJs have unique needs and expectations when it comes to romantic relationships and you may struggle to find someone who matches you intellectually and emotionally. But don't let that stop you from making the first move!

What happens when an INFJ gets stressed?

When INFJs are under a lot of stress, they can fall into the grip of their inferior function, Extraverted Sensing, which makes the INFJ unable to think about their normal visionary ideas, be creative, or help others with their characteristic empathy.

Is life hard for INFJ?

For people who are INFJ personality types, regular life can be hard. Usually, when we're growing up and still figuring ourselves out as young adults, we assume that life is so hard because there is something wrong with us.

What does a stressed INFJ look like?

Grip stress makes the INFJ suddenly start behaving like an unhealthy, imbalanced ESTP. We lose our long-range focus, our typical empathetic nature and become focused on indulgence and sensory pleasure. We may become impulsive and reckless, seeking out thrills or enjoyment even if it's dangerous.

What does INFJ burnout look like?

Perhaps the most telling sign of burnout is a dwindling passion for your job, or doubt about whether this is the job for you. When you have become entirely spent, the amount of energy you can dedicate to your job starts to dwindle. When INFJs can't give their 100 percent, we start second-guessing our decisions.

What does a toxic INFJ look like?

INFJs that are unhealthy take things to heart quite easily. They take any criticism personally and can easily conjure up a "me vs the world" situation in their heads. Similar to the way a narcissist holds grudges, someone with an unhealthy personality might grow resentful of others that unintentionally hurt them.

How do you know if an INFJ is done with you?

Do INFJs avoid phone calls?

Phone calls

This can be an issue for a lot of introverts, but it seems to be a particular difficulty for INFJs. Personally, I don't mind being on the phone to catch up with a friend or someone I know. In that situation, I can often be on the phone for hours without thinking twice.

What's the best partner for an INFJ?

Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, INFJ's natural partner is the ENTP, or the ENFP. INFJ's dominant function of Introverted Intuition is best matched with a personality type that is dominated by Extraverted Intuition.