Why is it hard to love a HSP?

The downside is you take on their feelings as your own.
Due to their deep awareness of others and their empathy, HSPs tend to absorb others' emotions as their own. So when your partner is down, so are you. This can be especially hard on a relationship if your partner is often moody, anxious, stressed, or depressed.


How do you love someone who is highly sensitive?

How to Love a Highly Sensitive Person
  1. Speak words that lift us up, not drag us down. As I've already mentioned, words really matter to HSPs. ...
  2. Check in on us. ...
  3. Indulge our senses. ...
  4. Check your vibes. ...
  5. Yes to hugs, kisses, and physical touch. ...
  6. Respect our limits. ...
  7. Show us that you notice us.


Is it hard to date HSP?

For HSPs, who exist in a world that doesn't always understand our needs and neurodivergence, dating can be especially overwhelming. The uncertainty makes the process inherently risky, especially for people who experience feelings on a more intense level than most.


Can HSP fall in love?

When highly sensitive people (HSPs) confide about love, there is notable depth and intensity. They fall in love hard and they work hard on their close relationships. Yes, sometimes non-HSPs sound similarly enthralled and confused by love, but on the average, HSPs have a more soul-shaking underlying experience.

What kind of partner does a HSP need?

A verbal safe haven: HSPs thrive in relationships where they feel seen, heard, and valued. Since highly sensitive people feel things more deeply than most, their feelings often get hurt more quickly than others'. HSPs thrive in relationships where they feel seen, heard, and valued.


8 Things That Make a Highly Sensitive Person Hard To Love



What hurts a highly sensitive person?

Highly sensitive people may be more affected by certain situations such as tension, violence, and conflict, which may lead them to avoid things that make them feel uncomfortable. You might be highly touched by beauty or emotionality. Highly sensitive people tend to feel deeply moved by the beauty they see around them.

What do highly sensitive people struggle with?

Living with High Sensitivity

HSPs may struggle to adapt to new circumstances, may demonstrate seemingly inappropriate emotional responses in social situations, and may easily become uncomfortable in response to light, sound, or certain physical sensations.

Are HSP narcissists?

Repeat after me: Highly Sensitive People are not covert narcissists. HSPs aren't even on the narcissism scale. In fact, they're basically the opposite of narcissists, even if they do show some of the same outward traits.


What's it like dating a HSP?

When you're dating an HSP you'll quickly discover you're in the company of someone who truly cares. They will do everything in their power to make you feel accepted, comforted, and validated, because that's what they believe everyone deserves.

Are highly sensitive people traumatized?

Are Highly Sensitive People More Susceptible to Trauma? In a word, yes. As highly sensitive people, our nervous systems are more finely tuned than those of non-HSPs. This means we respond to all stimuli in a stronger way, including traumatic experiences.

What not to say to a highly sensitive person?

10 Things You Should Never Say to a Highly Sensitive Person
  • Yes, we know we're sensitive. ...
  • “You're too sensitive.” ...
  • “Don't take things so personally. ...
  • “It's not that big a deal. ...
  • “SURPRISE!” (“Expect the unexpected” is not a phrase HSPs live by.) ...
  • “Let's go to this loud, crowded event!”


Is HSPs needy?

Highly sensitive people are not the same as emotionally needy, whiny, complainers. They aren't victims, and they're not making up problems just to get attention. We all know people like that, but there are key differences: Victims are focused on themselves, while HSPs are often focused on others.

How do couples deal with HSP?

What You Need to Know About Being in a Relationship With an HSP
  1. Your HSP will notice (and feel) what you feel. ...
  2. Give your HSP a little more time to adjust to changes. ...
  3. Choose your first movie carefully. ...
  4. No more sneaking up! ...
  5. There will be times when you're amazed. ...
  6. Sometimes they need time alone.


Are HSP emotionally intelligent?

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships. The good news is that highly sensitive people aren't more or less emotionally intelligent than others.


What do highly sensitive people need?

HSPs thrive on love and affection.

For the highly sensitive person, emotional support and affection aren't just nice — they're necessities. Because they easily pick up on the moods of others, expressions of caring are important (like a hug or kind words) because it creates a sense that all is well in the relationship.

What are the telltale signs of a highly sensitive person?

8 Signs You May Be a Highly Sensitive Person:
  • You're very emotional. ...
  • You're very compassionate and generous. ...
  • You're sensitive to criticism. ...
  • You feel different from everyone else and sometimes alone. ...
  • You're sensitive to external stimuli. ...
  • You overthink and worry. ...
  • You're intuitive. ...
  • You often feel tired and overwhelmed.


Does HSP overthink?

A common struggle for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) is overthinking. “My brain won't stop,” or, “I can't turn it off!” or “I'm overanalyzing again” are common refrains.


Are HSP gifted?

It's true that HSPs have a tendency towards overstimulation and high emotional reactivity. But we're also gifted with high empathy and deep intellectual processing. HSPs are extremely valuable and important for a thriving, well-rounded culture.

Are HSP lonely?

One of the main reasons that HSPs might feel lonely is that their interactions and relationships are lacking substance — and our constant sense of being an “outsider” only makes this worse. Unless we can stop withdrawing and get the meaningful interactions we crave.

Can HSP be toxic?

Let me note here that highly sensitive people can also exhibit toxic behaviors. When bringing up your needs, wants feelings or thoughts do you constantly feel criticized, put down, or shamed?


Do HSP have anger issues?

Due to traits of their personality, heightened empathy or childhood conditioning, many highly sensitive people have repressed anger, and do not know how to deal with their emotions healthily.

Which personality type is most likely to be HSP?

Most HSPs are either INFJs or INFPs — the ones that don't tend to be ENFJs or ENFPs. Whether you're one or both, it's important to know what stresses you, what overstimulates you and what makes you feel calm, relaxed and happy.

What is the secret superpower of highly sensitive people?

Most highly sensitive people display rare strengths in key areas of emotional intelligence, also known as emotional quotient (EQ) — the ability to recognize and understand emotions in themselves and others. These strengths including self-awareness and social-awareness.


What happens in the brain of a highly sensitive person?

Highly sensitive people activate brain areas to a greater extent to interpret in great depth and detail the information of the affective and emotional states of the people around them, especially those close to them.

How rare is highly sensitive person?

It is believed that HSPs are not rare, and that about 15-20% of the population are thought to be an HSP. There are also thought to be no significant differences in sex, with equal numbers of males and females being an HSP. Being an HSP is an innate trait, with biologists finding high sensitivity in over 100 species.