What not to say at AA?

When speaking to individuals or the group, you should not share personal information about yourself or anyone else. If you happen to see someone you know, perhaps from work or within your community, you should not acknowledge your prior connection with them.


What should you not say to someone in recovery?

Here is an ultimate guide of what not to say to a sober person— and what to say instead:
  • “Why aren't you drinking?” ...
  • “How do you know you're an alcoholic/addict?” ...
  • “Come on, just one drink, we're celebrating” ...
  • “So everyone's drinking but Brenda” ...
  • “When will you be able to drink again?” or “When will you be recovered?”


What can you not do in AA?

Keep membership records or case histories. Follow up or try to control its members. Make medical or psychological diagnoses or prognoses. Provide hospitalization, drugs, or medical or psychiatric treatment.


What is the first rule of AA?

Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable. Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

What does crosstalk mean in AA?

Cross talking in A.A. is when a person gives advice to others who have already shared their stories. The individual speaks to them directly, instead of speaking to the group as a whole. Cross talk can also include interrupting the person who is speaking or asking them a question unexpectedly.


Jordan Peterson on Alcoholics Anonymous



What is an example of crosstalk?

Crosstalk causes interference on an affected pair of conductors or overall cable creates errors or prevents data transmission. For example, have you ever heard someone else's conversation while on the phone? This is caused by interference between adjacent telephone wires.

What is an example of cross talk?

This electromagnetic interference creates crosstalk. For example, if two wires next to each other carry different signals, the currents in them will create magnetic fields that will induce a smaller signal in the neighboring wire.

What are the 4 absolutes in AA?

The “Four Absolutes” of Alcoholics Anonymous were considered “yardsticks” in the earliest days of the recovery program —standards for determining appropriate behavior as measured through God's eyes. The Four Absolutes are Honesty, Purity, Unselfishness, and Love.


What step is the hardest in AA?

Those who subscribe to the 12 steps of AA recognize that for most addicts, step one is usually the hardest. Admitting you are powerless over alcohol requires a tremendous amount of courage, humility and even fear. It can bring on a flood of powerful emotions including shame, anger and grief.

What are the 3 R's of AA?

These “stages” represent the chief turning points that a once afflicted individual passes through. These three critical stages are: Resentments, Relief, and Relapse Prevention.

Are you allowed to date while in AA?

The official policy of Alcoholics Anonymous (as laid out in the Big Book) does not specifically close the door to dating in the early period of sobriety, but abstaining from relationships is an integral part of the conversation.


What percentage of people get sober in AA?

A New York Times article stated that AA claims that up to 75% of its members stay abstinent. Alcoholics Anonymous' Big Book touts about a 50% success rate, stating that another 25% remain sober after some relapses.

What are the limitations of AA?

Among the issues identified as limiting AA's effectiveness are the movement's preoccupation with drinking and sobriety and lack of concern for other problems. Also, the possibility is raised that AA's insistence that its members are but "one drink away from a drunk" can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

What does burning desire mean in AA?

Burning Desire: Usually, at the end of the meeting, the chair asks if anyone has a burning desire to use or drink or harm themselves or others. This is also an opportunity for anyone who hasn't had a chance to share, to share.


What can I say instead of sober?

Synonyms of sober
  • dry.
  • straight.
  • clearheaded.
  • steady.
  • abstinent.
  • abstemious.
  • cool.
  • teetotal.


Do addicts know they are hurting you?

Having an addiction is hard enough, but making those you love suffer from your addiction is even worse. Addicts can see your struggles and they know when they are the cause. They don't want to hurt you. To cope, some addicts find solace in distancing themselves to avoid hurting anyone else.

What is the average length of sobriety in AA?

14 percent of AA members stay sober between 10 and 20 years. 22 percent of AA members stay sober 20 or more years. The average length of AA member sobriety is nearly 10 years.


What are the 5 C's of AA?

Action was also directed by the 5 C's – Conviction, Confession, Contrition, Conversion, and Continuance. Much of this continued for years as AA practices, in some areas, most especially in Ohio.

What step is resentment in AA?

AA encourages participants to begin working through their resentments with Step 4, which is where you will make a “searching and fearless moral inventory” of yourself. You might find this step especially challenging after living with the denial that characterizes substance abuse.

What is God in AA?

In Alcoholics Anonymous, “God” is simply defined as a Higher Power or a Power greater than ourselves.


What are the 12 promises in AA?

Interpreting the 12 AA Promises
  • Feelings of freedom and happiness.
  • Gaining a deeper perspective.
  • Renewed purpose or direction in life.
  • Acceptance of self and others.
  • Selflessness.
  • Hope and faith.
  • Less fear and/or financial worry.
  • Redemption from past actions.


What are AA criticisms?

Other Criticisms of Alcoholics Anonymous

* AA is closely aligned with the disease model of addiction. Here alcoholism is viewed as a chronic condition. The individual in recovery is not viewed as cured but instead in remission. This model of addiction has been criticized because it disempowers people.

What is acceptable crosstalk?

Spoiler summary: In single-ended systems, the maximum amount of crosstalk to design for, from all sources, should be less than about 5% of the signal swing. In high speed serial links, a safe value for the maximum crosstalk to design for should be less than -50dB, or 0.3%.


How can cross talk be avoided?

The best way to eliminate crosstalk is to exploit the very parallelism that leads to its creation by closely coupling the return path to ground to your high-speed signals. Since the return path is equal in magnitude but opposite in direction, the fields cancel out and reduce crosstalk.

What prevents cross talk?

In twisted pair cabling, the twist helps cancel crosstalk. So, when wires are not tightly twisted, crosstalk happens. To prevent crosstalk, wire pairs in a Cat5e cable should not be untwisted more than 0.5 inches and not more than 0.375 inches for Cat6 cables.