Why do I feel like I don't love my child?

Perhaps you were neglected or abused or had a competitive, controlling, jealous, demeaning, or toxic parent. Often, the very defenses people develop to survive such a childhood can cut them off from intimate and loving feelings for their own progeny.

Why do I feel like I don't like my child?

If you look closely, you may realize that disliking your child is more about you than them—because it has to do with your reaction to their behavior. Sometimes, as parents, we are triggered by memories of our own childhood, causing feelings of inadequacy, fear, or anxiety. We then project those feelings onto our kids.

What causes a mother to not love her child?

Parents have unresolved trauma in their own lives.

For example, a parent who cannot bear to be reminded of his own childhood sadness may be vindictive or punishing to his children when they cry. Another parent may suppress her children's pain in just the opposite way—by over-comforting and over-protecting them.

What is cold mother syndrome?

Emotionally absent or cold mothers can be unresponsive to their children's needs. They may act distracted and uninterested during interactions, or they could actively reject any attempts of the child to get close. They may continue acting this way with adult children.

Why do I feel detached from my child?

Feeling disconnected from your child is a usual part of parenting. Although it leaves you questioning your abilities, with some time and effort, you can work on restoring your connection. Excess screen time, neglecting your own needs, and replacing quality time with material things can contribute to the disconnect.

I Love My Child, But I Don't Love Being A Mom

What happens when you feel unloved as a child?

“When a person's first attachment experience is being unloved, this can create difficulty in closeness and intimacy, creating continuous feelings of anxiety and avoidance of creating deep meaningful relationships as an adult,” says Nancy Paloma Collins, LMFT in Newport Beach, California.

What is parental loneliness?

Feeling forgotten about as a single parent (especially as a single dad). Feeling left behind because you have health, disability or money worries you think others won't understand. Feeling cut off from friends or family, or anxious about meeting new people.

What is a snowplow mom?

Snowplow parenting, also called lawnmower parenting or bulldozer parenting, is a parenting style that seeks to remove all obstacles from a child's path so they don't experience pain, failure, or discomfort.

What are signs of a toxic mother?

What is unloved daughter syndrome?

Lack of trust

With an emotionally unreliable mother or one who is combative or hypercritical, the daughter learns that relationships are unstable and dangerous, and that trust is ephemeral and can't be relied on. Unloved daughters have trouble trusting in all relationships but especially friendship.

How do you cure lack of motherly love?

How can I be more loving to my child?

What is an emotionally absent mother?

They're dismissive or overwhelmed when the child has an emotional need. They're not interested in the child's life (interests, friend groups, school work). They have difficulty expressing their feelings, even with adults. They're unable or unwilling to provide comfort during emotional distress.

Is it normal to not want your kid anymore?

It's completely normal; no one is perfect, although many of us expect ourselves to be when it comes to having a child. Parenting is hard, and it can cause anyone to question their ability to raise their child in the way they want to.

Is it normal to not want to be with your kids?

There are times when you don't want to connect.

It is normal to feel temporarily disconnected from your kids. Some stages are harder than others. You don't have to live in a dream land where everyone gets along all of the time.

At what age does parenting get easier?

They become quite independent as they reach 5-6 years of age, even wanting to help you with some of the chores! This is probably why most parents look at age 6 as the magical age when parenting gets easier.

What is a unicorn mom?

Urban Dictionary, the online home for slang words and phrases, defines unicorn mom as: "a mother who's not perfect, enjoys alcohol, has a sense of humor and couldn't care less what you think."

What is a dragon mom?

Dragon mothers are mothers who grieve for children who have died or are terminally ill.

What is a lazy mother?

LAZY MOM is a collaboration by New York-based artists Josie Keefe and Phyllis Ma. Based on an imaginary mother who, instead of preparing meals for her family, spends her time arranging groceries obsessive-compulsively. The project explores the simplicity and complexity of modern food.

What is a dolphin mom?

My mom was a Dolphin Mom, which means she was a collaborative (authoritative) parent. She was not a controlling (authoritarian) Tiger Mom, or a indulging (permissive) Jellyfish Mom.

What is a jellyfish mom?

Jellyfish: Permissive parenting style. These parents are the opposite of authoritarians. They project high warmth and communication but take little control, tolerate inconsistent daily routines, and provide few clear expectations for their kids.

What is a panda mom?

According to Yahoo!, panda parenting is all about “gently guiding your little one, as opposed to shoving them down the parenting path”. In other words, a panda parent is one who gives their kids the freedom to do things their own way.

At what age is loneliness most common?

Our previous study found that loneliness was highest in the late 20s, mid-50s, and late 80s. To personalized care, it is important to consider the relative contribution of modifiable risk and protective factors in different stages of life.

What is the main cause of lone motherhood?

The breaking up of nuclear families due to separation, divorce, or the death of one spouse, creates lone-parent families. There has been a gradual rise in the number of divorces in the West. Families with children often break into lone-parent families after divorces.

What is an emotionally fragile parent?

A fragile parent is a parent who has their own unresolved health issues, whether they are mental or physical. If a child grows up with a parent who is not in a healthy place, they become accustomed to abnormal behaviors.